Mychael turned 24 this weekend!! I made everyone get in the back seat of the car in order to take pictures. It was hot, so the kids didn't want to take them outside. Regardless, I reminded the kids that Mychael is only one year younger than I was when I adopted them. Mychael said, "Yeah, and I'm going to adopt a little White girl next year."
Obviously Mychael won't be doing any adopting anytime soon. However, it will be validating once the kids get to the age I was when I adopted them. Maybe then they'll realize how hard it was to live, let alone raise teenagers, and cut me some slack. I guess I'm lucky that I will have waited only eleven years and fourteen years for that validation whereas biological parents have to wait a whole lot longer! Yet another reason to adopt older children.
Alysia (aka: Easter Bunny) gave me the above magnets for Easter. She wanted Malcolm to look younger, but didn't realize he'd look quite so young. Malc didn't care. He thought it was pretty sweet either way. I like the fact that Maude and Esther were also included.
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4 comments:
1. Happy Birthday Mychael!
2. Congrats on being quoted in the latest Adoptive Families Magazine, Mom! I was SO pumped to read that and think, "HEY, I read that blog!"
Good times!
I had my first permanent child when I was 25 and she was 11. I don't know about you, but I was definitely not old enough to be the mother of an 18 year old - somehow in the intervening years the age gap didn't seem so important.
Ten years on the girls living at home are just 4 and 6, and I find myself older than a number of the preschool parents - how things change.
Tia
I found your blog after seeing it mentioned in Adoptive Families Magazine, and I love it! Wow, so when you adopted them at age 25, your sons were 11 and 14 -- do I have that right? That is pretty amazing! I am a 36-year-old woman (37 this September), and I feel that when I turn 40 or so, I'll be ready (or as ready as I'll ever be, at least!) to adopt children. I've always wanted to adopt older children. I read about women given birth or adopting infants at age 41, 45, 50, and I think, good Lord, how do you do it!? Not that parenting older kids isn't tiring, of course, but at least the age gap isn't so huge.
Anyway, thank you so much for blogging your story -- I look forward to reading past entries and following your blog from here on out! :)
Don't wait to adopt until you're POSITIVE that you are ready! It might never happen otherwise. If you're old enough and have the financial means to be able to provide them with everything they need to make it in the world, AND you think you're ready, then go for it. Do not wait. You're child is waiting for you!!
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